I was going to draft this post in Starbucks... but pants.
Friends: here I am, blogging before you, ashamed and
pantsless full of regret that I haven't shared my prose and problems in over half a year. Thankfully for you, not much has changed. So we can pick up right where we left off: the everyday
struggle journey of a 24-year-old fickle feminist who is exceedingly single, full of chaos and drunken Snapchats. She also may or may not be currently debating whether to drink a glass of wine or Nyquil before bed, but she
read on WebMD has the wisdom to know not to do both.
Despite not having posted since February I've somehow racked up almost 10,000 page views, which inspired me to reignite this passion of regurgitating my silly life through words and gifs.
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| Yep. That about sums it up. |
True to my commitment-phobe psyche, I bailed when things got tough. Though my relationship status hasn't changed, more importantly, my job status has. I started a new, incredibly taxing career (like, I could be a tea partier rallying for time & mental health instead of guns & neo-Nazism). It's incredibly fulfilling, I absolutely adore my coworkers and I'm making some fantastic connections, but damn, the nonprofit world is exhausting. Oh, and there was that whole cancer thing when I had my thyroid removed.
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| This could totally be a Death Cab album cover. |
But, unfortunately, that's life. And from what I hear from the village elders, it doesn't get much
sassier easier. It's funny how when we get stressed or overwhelmed, we cut out the things we need most: exercise, creative outlets, meditation, everything that's not chocolate... It's like we're purposely sabotaging ourselves. Let's make a pact to stop that, kay? After many snooze button assaults, I've finally found the time and adapted the habit of working out
before heading to Dunkin' Donuts regularly; now I can focus my energy on doing what I love,
judging people on Facebook writing and entertaining.
So now, more than ever, is the opportune time to over-analyze my life experiences, create pointless lists, fail at relationships and share all the details you.
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| Here's to poor judgement. |
See you back here next Monday.
Singly yours,
- Samantha Single in Cle
Go get em girl! :)
ReplyDeleteThanks, friend!
DeleteI think your blog represents so much of what is wrong with women of our generation. You say you have a hectic but fulfilling career but what I hear is that you make no time for HIM which is why you single in the first place. I don't believe you have a fear of commitment, I think you have a fear of missing out on reckless philandering. Much like the homosexual friends (which I assume you have - most feminists do) trolling grinder, you are probably also carelessly meeting men in coffee shops to hookup with and then justify your actions as your "feminist expression." Truly successful women know that they were created to serve god and to serve their husbands and not just spread their legs and take as other men's sinful seed. Maybe if you devoted more time to God and going to church instead of self reflection at the bottom of a bottle of wine you could find HIM and even a husband to take care of. And so you know, wine is served in church as well...but probably not in the quantity you are use to.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry that you think my belief in the social, political and economic equality of women; my eagerness to unabashedly drink in every drop of life; my ability to make my own decisions about my body, and my friendship with 'homosexuals' is wrong. I'm sorry that my carefree existence threatens you. And I'm most sorry that you believe women were created to serve their husbands. I am here to serve no one but myself, and in turn, my goals, my family and my loved ones.
DeleteI have absolutely no problem with your beliefs, and it makes me sad that you feel the need to criticize mine. I think your dude Jesus said some things about passing judgement; or maybe that was Tupac. Either way, you can continue going to church and typing anonymous exasperated comments on blogs, and I'll continue with my life: traveling, cracking jokes, working to end hunger, falling in and out of love, dreaming, accomplishing, and inspiring women everywhere to do the same.
I write anonymously because I want people to appreciate my comments for what they are, not whom they came from.
DeleteI am a harbinger of light and faith. I am a women of god. He is my shepherd and I his lamb. I believe in order. The order of husband and wife. Of the wife serving her husband, her king. I think the world has lost the purpose HE created, HE designed with Adam and Eve.
Colossians 3:18
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
Yo anonymous! What's grinder? I have homosexual friends, too, but I have never heard of grinder. Maybe I am not hip enough! You seem to know more about homosexual culture than me. Congratulations! You're winning!
DeleteI know of Grinder from those I have brought back to the light. It is a giant cesspool pool of despair trying to further legitimize the homosexual agenda and poison the minds of the little lambs of God.
DeleteMany times in my life I wanted to rebel against everything - politics, parents, people around me, society in a whole. But one thing I never argued about is: men are here to protect and support us women and I must respect that. We expect of them to bring us food, cash, to take us everywhere and to make us feel safe. They do all of that. And what did women do? Tried to make them feel bad because they do it! Why? I want them to do it for me. They are stronger and they have higher payed jobs. I read that their IQ is higher. I don't know if its true but men are usually much more educated so maybe it is. In any case, I love the fact they don't expect me to do anything, I don't have to work, only thing I have to do is make them happy. To listen to them and respect their command. It is not hard! It gives me pleasure to serve a man in any way because then I feel great when he is satisfied. Then he will give me whatever I ask. Money, holidays... Just listen to his simple wish - and obey! Even in the Bible it says so. Like it or not you must learn that, it is better for you.
I don't even know where to begin with this. I sincerely hope that this is a prank. But if not, here we go:
DeleteThe 'homosexual agenda' is the human agenda, furthering love and acceptance - you know, those things that Jesus taught. I recommend reading these beautiful words from a pastor to open your heart: http://johnpavlovitz.com/2014/09/17/if-i-have-gay-children-four-promises-from-a-christian-pastorparent/
Men and women are here for the same purpose: to live, love, grow and try to gain as much as they can from this short period we have on earth. One is not meant to protect or provide for the other; these are social constructs and gender 'requirements' created by people not long ago - the same people who prostituted their wives or enslaved people with brown skin.
I've always had the desire to learn, grow and earn my place in this world. Many women across the globe have the same desires, but they would be killed, raped or mutilated for pursuing their dreams. We've worked our asses off to have overcome this in the US, but unfortunately, there are many people who still share your beliefs and oppress our potential. You're right - women do earn less than men, but I'll be damned if it's because of their IQ. It's because of people like you; brainwashed by male dominance that is apparently doing exactly what it was intended to do- keep you in your place. According to a paper published at Yale (and by no support of your comments here), women are now more educated than men, but still earn less. (http://yaleglobal.yale.edu/content/women-more-educated-men-still-paid-less-men)
If you choose to live a subservient life, I'll pity you, but that's fine by me. But you, actively voicing your anti-feminism is not only harming yourself, but women everywhere, and I'll do everything in my power to bring the 'light' of gender equality to you.
Hey anonymous hey! (You probably didn't get that Tila Tequila reference. But that's okay). Here's the deal: I am a big fan of Jesus. And, I'm a big fan of gay people. Hell, I'm a fan of ALL people. Because Jesus was a really big fan of people, too. If "the gays" and "feminists" are going to hell for being "sinners,' then there is zero hope for me because I'm wearing a poly-cotton blend as I type this. *GASP* The world is full of sinners (you and I included).
DeleteIt's fascinating to me that you use scripture to criticize the works of a woman who is trying (and succeeding) to make this world a healthier and happier place. I have never understood using scripture (or the Jesus argument) in order to smash my faith in someone's face. Because, in fact, you have just pushed hundreds of blog readers back two steps instead of helping anyone into the "light of Jesus." I'd love to be a fly on the pearly gates when it comes time to see if you make the cut into this beautiful and mystifying afterlife that we believe exists. Because if you want this gorgeous salvation with Jesus we hear about, you need to understand that sinners DO make the cut. And who knows, maybe you and I can float around on some clouds (jk, people) and have a beer and discuss theology. It seems that there is a lot of learning to be done. All this is to say that I am a Christian and sharing our faith is tough work. But from the heart of one Jesus freak to another, you've just done more harm than good. Love people (that is the greatest commandment, yes?) and God will do the rest.
Oh, by the way... I was a youth pastor for 4 years, I have a bachelors degree in religious studies and I'm working towards two master's degrees in theology. If you'd like to ever discuss theology and this cool guy we both love named Jesus, I'd be more than happy to spend some time with another brother or sister in Christ.
And blog writer, keep writing. I need something to read with my Monday night wine.
Love you, Dodge! (you'll always be Dodge to me :))
DeleteAgain if this person cant even say who they are then they are ashamed of their own comments. Blog on Samantha blog on lol.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Amber!
DeleteSam as long as you know who you are that's all that matters. I know your a great person.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Shannon. :)
DeleteAnonymous - Are you really trying to help this problem that you see, or are you just trying to make yourself feel better? You are leaping to some pretty big conclusions which can only be deduced as judging someone. Yes, we can judge someone's actions, but only God can judge a person. There are much less hateful ways to get your point across. Satan often uses people like you to only further another's distaste for religion, with contention and condescending language. If I didn't have religion and was spoken to by every other Christian the way you spoke to Samantha, I wouldn't want anything to do with something that created such hostility towards others. That wasn't Christ's message at all. You need to go eat yourself a nice serving of humble pie. You can stand for your beliefs without being hateful.
ReplyDeleteGreat point, Bekah! :)
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